Saying Yes, Part II

Last time, we talked about how just saying “Yes” to our current unpleasant situation, allows us to stop resisting and to begin seeing the solutions that offer us a way out. Today, I want to touch upon another way in which saying “Yes” is immensely important. And that is in growth. If you desperately want out of a dead-end job, and fail to send out resumes or apply for new positions, you will not likely get out of your crappy position. If you hate being single or lonely, and you never take steps to meet people, it’s unlikely that your love life will change. Sure there are exceptions, when Providence seems to drop a huge boon in our laps without any type of effort on our part. But I think much more commonly, we help make our changes by being open to saying, “Yes.” Saying “Yes” means updating your resume. Saying “Yes” means...

Saying Yes, Part I

I’m not sure how many times this has happened to me, but it seems to have happened plenty – and I can’t be the only one. Let’s say I was angry or disappointed about a situation that had failed to live up to my expectations. I would find myself kind of stewing in my feelings, even after I was aware of them. I would find myself resisting moving out of that feeling. Why? Maybe it felt too comfortable in some strange way, maybe I didn’t feel like expending the energy to feel better. No matter the excuse, the result was the same. No movement out of that uncomfortable feeling. No relief. That is, until I said “Yes.” I had to first acknowledge where I was. I had to claim it, I had to say “Yes, this is the way I’m feeling or acting right now.” Once I said “Yes” to where I was, I was much more easily able to say...